Who are we?

Welcome to Agony Advice - we're here to help you make sense of all your relationship problems. Whether you or your partner are having an affair, your sex life is poor or non-existent, you and your partner have grown apart, or your relationship is under strain or close to breaking up, our team is able to help you explore your options and explain potential next steps. Offering relationship advice is our business. 

What do we do?

We operate very much like a traditional 'agony aunt' or personal advice service, with one very big exception: we never, ever publish your personal problems. In fact, our whole service is based around absolute discretion and confidentiality. We offer very fast, detailed and personal replies to any relationship problems, concerns or queries you may have. We see ourselves as filling an important niche, in between the potentially time-consuming and expensive face-to-face relationship counselling services and the myriad online relationship advice forums where your problems are published for all to read and comment on.

Relationship Counselling

Perhaps you are considering relationship counselling or marriage guidance, either with a local counsellor or with a big organisation like Relate. These can be very helpful, and we credit relationship counsellors with saving a great number of relationships that otherwise would fail every year. We aren't looking to compete with face-to-face counsellors; far from it, we often recommend couples go for face-to-face counselling with BACP counsellors and others in our replies because we know what a superb job they do with couples in crisis. We want to complement these services by providing a slightly different service: the first step in helping you to decipher, strengthen or save your relationship.

We give advice. Sound, considered, honest, clear, rational, balanced, intelligent advice. Whew! That's a lot of adjectives! Counsellors are not in the habit of offering relationship advice. Their job is to help couples explore, over a period of time and in a face-face-environment, their problems and open up to one another. But in order for that to happen, the couple must first attend counselling - getting to this point is not always easy, or often even necessary, and this is why so many customers come to us first. We give opinions when you need help to decide on the next step.

What if you only suspect your partner of having an affair?
What if you haven't told them you are no longer in love?
What if they don't know that you are having an affair but realise something is up?
What if you aren't sure counselling will work?
What if you aren't sure that you even want to try counselling?
What if they won't listen to you?
What will happen to the children?
What are my options other than counselling?
Is this all my fault?
Is this all their fault?
How do you get them to attend counselling?
Do we even need counselling?

There are a million more questions; in fact, most of the people who write to us don't need counselling but simply need advice on how to understand their relationships better or want an unbiased second opinion on which way to go after a significant change in the nature of the relationship. Other times, we do recommend counselling, and how to broach that subject with their partner, to some people who otherwise would never have made that important step in saving their relationship.

What other reasons are there for using us?

But our service isn't just highly professional, innovative and effective. It's also faster and more economical than the alternatives. You could spend hundreds, even thousands, of pounds on counselling when our advice - our opinion - could have helped you make the right decision long ago.

We guarantee the length of our reply and your question will be answered within 24 hours of being received (with a money-back guarantee). Everything is totally private and confidential, each carefully-constructed reply is custom-written to the problem, we never see any personal details like your address or credit card (payment is handled on a secure third-party server) and we have a no-spam policy that we means that we'll never send you any marketing or pass your details onto anyone else.

So what will our service cost? 

£8.50 for a minimum 250 word reply;
£14.50 for a minimum 500 word reply;
£19.50 for a  minimum 750 word reply.

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